Today is March 8. What does this day mean to you?
It’s International Women’s Day and that could mean…
Acknowledging all the amazing women you know?
Celebrating what being a woman means to you?
Or reflecting on all the women who have influenced you along the way……
(For the men reading this – some food for thought about the women in your life!)
For me it’s a combination of all three. Particularly when I think of the amazing women I have in my life – family, friends, clients – I feel truly grateful because you seriously rock my world!
I really appreciate how much women value and respect their friendships. You’ve heard the saying ‘you’re lucky if you can count on one hand the true friends you have’. Friendship is so important to me. I couldn’t have got through the last few years without my girlfriends. Women naturally hold space for each other – to listen, to hug, to verbally vomit on each other – without feeling the need to ‘fix’ or solve the problem.
This is what I value the most as a woman and a healer. I am blessed to be able to hold that space for my family, friends and my clients BUT only because others do it for me. We all want to feel safe, loved, heard and nurtured.
I am well aware that not everyone has this connection with other women. Unfortunately we live in a very competitive and isolated society where women feel they need to prove themselves (or protect themselves) in order to get through the day.
Not just in the workplace, but in their homes and family gatherings.
Do you struggle connecting with other women? Do you feel easily threatened by other women? Do you find yourself being critical and judging other women?
You’re not alone. This is a VERY common feeling.
Unfortunately we are still breaking through generational barriers that women have been fighting for a LONG time. Some of these female trailblazers (as I like to call them) might make you feel a little intimidated or insecure. Sometimes it’s easier to judge than appreciate they have probably had to work through their own struggles to get where they are.
One of my favourite Oprah Winfrey quotes is…
I was once afraid of people saying
“Who does she think she is?”
Now I have the courage to stand and say
“This is who I am”
Let’s celebrate the trailblazers, the women breaking through those generational barriers, the ones trying really hard to be a better Mum / partner/ friend/ PERSON.
Next time you feel intimidated by another woman, tune into the feeling that woman evokes in you – are you really saying ‘I want some of that?”
It takes courage to work through your ‘stuff’ and own these feelings.
I often say to my clients as they start on their healing journey –
It’s not an easy ride, but it is SO worth it!
Let’s be there for each other, support and encourage each other and keep charging FORWARD! What if we could all stand up and say
‘THIS IS WHO I AM’
Now go and ring your Mum or your best friend or your Aunty and tell them how much you love and appreciate them!
You are unique, beautiful and very loved.
I hope to see you soon.
Jane x